Speech by Anna Quindlen - Inspirational

This was a speech made by Pulitzer Prize-winning author, Anna Quindlen
at the graduation ceremony of an American university where she was
awarded an Honorary PhD.

"I'm a novelist.  My work is human nature.  Real life is all I know.
Don't ever confuse the two, your life and your work.  You will walk
out of here this afternoon with only one thing that no one else has.
There will be hundreds of people out there with your same degree:
there will be thousands of people doing what you want to do for a
living.   But you will be the only person alive who has sole custody
of your life.  Your particular life.  Your entire life.  Not just your
life at a desk, or your life on a bus, or in a car or at the computer.
 Not just the life of your mind, but the life of your heart.  Not just
your bank accounts but also your soul …

People don't talk about the soul very much anymore.  It's so much
easier to write a resume than to craft a spirit.  But a resume is cold
comfort on a winter's night, or when you're sad, or broke, or lonely,
or when you've received your test results and they're not so good.

Here is my resume:  I am a good mother to three children.  I have
tried never to let my work stand in the way of being a good parent.  I
no longer consider myself the centre of the universe.  I show up.  I
listen.  I try to laugh.  I am a faithful friend to my husband.  I
have tried to make marriage vows mean what they say.  I am a good
friend to my friends and them to me.  Without them, there would be
nothing to say to you today, because I would be a cardboard cut out.
But, I call them on the phone and I meet them for lunch.  I would be
rotten, at best mediocre, at my job if those other things were not
true.

You cannot be really first rate at your work if your work is all you
are.  So here's what I wanted to tell you today:  Get a life.  A real
life, not a manic pursuit of the next promotion, the bigger pay
cheque, the larger house.  Do you think you'd care so very much about
those things if you blew an aneurysm one afternoon or found a lump in
your breast?

Get a life in which you notice the smell of salt water pushing itself
on a breeze at the seaside, a life in which you stop and watch how a
red-tailed hawk circles over the water, or the way a baby scowls with
concentration when she tries to pick up a sweet with her thumb and
first finger.

Get a life in which you are not alone.  Find people you love and
respect, and who love and respect you.  And remember that love is not
leisure, it is work – hard work.  Pick up the phone.  Send an email.
Write a letter.  Make an effort.  Get a life in which you are
generous.  And realize that life is the best thing ever, and that you
have no business taking it for granted.  Care so deeply about its
goodness that you want to spread it around.  Take money you would have
spent on beer and give it to charity.  Work in a soup kitchen.  Be a
big brother or sister. All of you want to do well.  But if you do not
do good too, then doing well will never be enough.

It is so easy to waste our lives, our days, our hours, and our
minutes. It is so easy to take for granted the colour of our kids'
eyes, the way the melody in a symphony rises and falls and disappears
and rises again.  It is so easy to exist instead of to live.

I learned to live many years ago.  I learned to love the journey, not
the destination.  I learned that it is not a dress rehearsal, and that
today is the only guarantee you get.   I learned to look at all the
good in the world and try to give some of it back because I believed
in it, completely and utterly.   And I tried to do that, in part, by
telling others what I had learned.   By telling them this: Consider
the lilies of the field.  Look at the fuzz on a baby's ear.  Read in
the back yard with the sun on your face.

Learn to be happy.  And think of life as a terminal illness, because
if you do, you will live it with joy and passion as it ought to be
lived".